Getting the elder child to learn and accept a younger sibling is a tricky thing especially when they are two years apart. Zara, our second girl arrived slightly less than a month before our first child, Ayra, turned two. Every parents know the challenges ahead when a child turns two (they don’t name it “terrible two” for nothing).
The elder child’s need for more attention, learning to control and express more emotions, learning how to get what’s on her mind across to adults and so much more new (and sometime frustrating) things to explore and experience. With so much on hand I must be crazy to think that a two year difference in age is a good thing for my girls. I told myself a 2 year gap is great course they will both be able to share the same stuff, play together and learn together. This ideal dream was brought down soon after baby Zara was born, when my mum warned that 2 years difference is going to be a huge challenge ahead. According to her “philosophy”, when the gap is less than two the, elder may still be unaware of the changes and if its a gap of 3 years, the elder child will be more mature to accept a younger sibling. No matter what lies ahead, I am up for the challenge!
It has been more than month now and to me, I am happy and grateful for how my girls have grown and bonded. Elder sister, Ayra has grown to love and show her affection to the little one. When she’s at Grandma’s place, she’ll often ask where is Meimei (younger sister), and when she’s at home with us she will often ask to carry Zara. In her words, “Ayra toyie. Ayra toyie Meimei.” Yes, her carry sounds like toyie.
There are times when I have to carry the little one and Ayra will cry for my attention. And there are times when the little one is feeding and Ayra will demand for milk at the very moment. All these will past. And soon both girls will be sharing giggles, love and stories of their own; leaving me out in little parts of their lives.
I’m thankful for my two girls, my husband and my family’s support. I salute all the mummies out there who are able to look after more than 1 child alone. Till Zara turns 1 (at least), I doubt I’ll be able to handle both of them together alone for more than a week without any help from my family.
I love you my precious babies. I promise to love you, hold you, cherish you and be there for you always.