Things My Three Year Old Is Teaching Me

Zara officially turns three today.

Flashback to the day she was planned to come into this world (few weeks before she was due because of placenta previa) – the c-section procedure where you can hear and feel everything happening in the bright and cold operation room, that first cry of joy, the first touch with her in my arms and my first kiss on her tiny forehead. That day was magical and an emotional one for my husband and I.

Now a three-year-old, my little adult, who so often emits that strong mature aura that frightens me. Over these years I have learned and is learning so much from her. My pride and joy, my dearest baby girl Zara, thanks to you I’ve got a teacher that shows me what is it to live life with less stress and agony.

It’s ok to cry.

She is the drama queen in the house and in class. Every little thing that frustrates or irritates her will make her cry, and sometimes drive her crazy. She will cry, even if it’s just a short while, and there after she’ll be fine like nothing has happened. Learning from her anytime anywhere also can cry character, I have learned to sob and melt down when I have to. Whenever I have too much bottled inside me and didn’t know how to react I will just let myself go. After releasing those bottled up emotion and thoughts I get my focus back and am able to move forward. So cry when you want to, it helps one forget and move on.

Kickback, slither and lepak!

Zara sure lives up to her Chinese zodiac sign! A slimy slithering snake who is always ready to curl right into her act whenever wherever. The Mummy and Grandma are her favorite targets – slithering and twirling herself all around our body like a snake with its prey. She would throw herself in the most relaxed and bo-chup manner just to get that stretch or comfy rest on her back. Thereafter she’ll give a very satisfied smile to show how much she’s enjoying the moment in the comfort of our embrace. I do that whenever I can too, and it sure feels damn shiok.

Demand And You Shall Get It (Most of the time)

Being the youngest in the house usually means she get whatever she wants and is able to do whatever she want to do. Most of the time the girls will be keeping themselves occupied with toys, books or the iPads. Once a while, the girls will fight and cause havoc just because Zara wants whatever the sister is playing or using. Or the other way around. Usually when that happens, the one who cry the loudest or demands first win.

As we grow older, we somehow forget how to ask or demand for things. We have learned to take on responsibility on our own and avoid troubling others with our demand. But sometimes we really neeeded that extra help to make things work or a demand from family or friends to make oneself happier. I’ve learned to never be shy or afraid to ask for something, as long as it is legit and no harm caused, just ask and usually you’ll be surprised how much support and help you will get in return.

A big hug a day keeps bad thoughts away.

Every day we hug, a great big teddy bear kinda hug, for comfort. That few seconds of touch makes all bad happenings, thoughts and emotions go away. It is that magical. When Zara is feeling down, I’ll give her a hug and she would throw herself into my lap and surround herself with Mummy’s love. These contacts not only help calm her but also makes me forget my bad day and how tired I may be after a long day out for work.

Thank you Zara for teaching Mummy these little things and more in life, thank you for your love and hugs. Happy Birthday my feisty princess. Let’s grow old together. To an awesome year ahead!

Love Mummy.

Zara The Terrific Two

That day when I walked out from the kitchen with your huge rainbow cake, that smile on your face lighted from within you, that precious moment I wished I had captured it on video or photo. That sweet innocent delighted smile witnessed by myself and your grandma, I wish I will never ever forget. Now a yellow memory ball stored in my core memory powering my family planet.

Today you turn two. My second born, the one who reminds me of me.

You may be the stronger headed child, with incredible will power and that special instinct to know exactly when to do what you know would drive everyone insane. The totally opposite as your elder sister whom you just have to snatch every single thing she is holding in her hands all the time! And yes she does that a lot too to you. Mummy is slowly getting used to this and started letting the two of you sort things out on your own.

Zara you are such a lovable and forgivable little girl. Your crazy laughter is insatiable and will forever be contagious. I love mumbling into your tummy just to hear you giggle and laugh, tickling you so much that both of us would lay flat laughing together.

You love to squeeze between me and my computer whenever you have a chance to; squeezing my thighs, blocking my view with your baby scented head, and the occasional head tilted back with big round eyes asking for my attention (or to let you watch YouTube on my mobile).

Our body clock seems to be working in sync every night, with every gentle stir in your bed (which is in no way connected to mine) I get awaken too. And when the clock strikes 0330/0500 we would both be awake and we know what you will ask for next. Then it repeats again around 0800/0900. It’s ok you know to ask for milk, but Mummy really hope you can sleep through every night so we can all have good undisturbed sleep. Oh and Mummy is still very puzzled how you can transform your sleeping position so many times every night! Some of your favourite pose are with both arms and legs wide open spinning 360-degree a couple of times, snuggling on your tummy with all arms and legs hidden out of sight and the most disturbing one must be you climbing up onto my bed and pushing yourself into my underarm and smelling it through the night.

For everything you do and will be doing in the days ahead, Mummy hope you will always have your goofy and cheeky planet working; bringing more laughter into our house.

Happy Birthday Zara!

May you one day (soon) stop looking for your Tu-Tu and show everyone more of your unblocked adorable face. Love you ge zillion!

Fox Kids & Baby Getting Hip with Fall Winter ’15 Collection

It was a morning of non-stop snacking, fashion shopping, tiny clay crafting, playing dress-up and being in their element at FOX Kids & Baby Fall Winter ’15 preview. If you still do not know by now how much our girls love FOX, go read about our fashionista moments with #FOXFashionSG since 2013! Gosh it has been almost 2 years already? So can I declare myself as a FOX Fashion style guru since I know almost all their collection over these years? I am very happy to see them evolving and bringing in better and more stylish designs over the years. And THIS season is probably my personal favourite!

Ayra and Zara in FOX Kids and Baby Fall Winter 2015 Collection
The girls styled in their upcoming releases for Fall Winter ’15, and these two outfits are my favourite picks from the preview. But silly me left them out in our stash! Must-go-back to buy them soon.

Moving slightly away from their usual cutesy cartoon character designs, FOX Kids & Baby brings in more stylish prints and monochromatic colours too. And finally the girls can dress to match me and Ayah instead of the other way round, because both me and him has got limited colours in our wardrobe and mainly in shades of black, greys and red, so this collection fits in well in our family!

Ayra and Zara at FOX Kids & Baby Fall Winter 2015 preview
The girls picked their own clothes to try during the preview, and this they do it too often these days whenever we are out shopping. Good thing I am still able to control them still and restrict any unnecessary spending.

Besides all the shopping and snacking on retro snacks from the 80s, we also got our hands busy making our very own cute accessories! Am impressed that Ayra managed to complete quite a bit with help from friend from Wing Tai.


And these are our combined effort from that day. Not bad right?
Ayra at FOX Kids & Baby Fall Winter 2015 Preview
Doesn’t she look like a big little fashionista shopper? Yes she tried on all those pieces. It was kinda crazy in the fitting room that day.
Ayra and Zara at FOX Kids & Baby Fall Winter 2015 Preview
One of the many failed attempts to get the girls pose for the camera. But this is quite cute lah, one busy eating and the other being her wacky self.
Matching outfits for our usual weekend day out to Universal Studios Singapore.

With whole lot more new designs to choose from this season, I think you’ll probably see me popping into FOX Kids & Baby every week to check out their new arrivals. And now they also have got a special treat for wt+ members, spend $60 nett in stores and get a free backpack for your little one.

Follow them on Facebook for their latest updates and promotions.

Disclaimer: The Loving Mum was invited to the preview and and provided shopping credits to dress up our little girls. All opinions are our own.

Terrible Two Even More Terrible with Number Two

Oh boy! I don’t know where or how to begin recording this core memory of ours with our number two. With Zara turning two next month, we are already feeling the strain and exhaustion from guiding her to learn to understand herself, expressing herself, controlling her emotions and knowing what’s right and wrong, what’s acceptable and not acceptable behaviour.

Being the strong-willed child in the family, she is constantly challenging our limits and tolerance to her high pitch screams. Her signature antic is the plunge-self-on-floor-scream-and-lay-face-down-and-cry motion. This happen almost every single day! When she couldn’t get the chips she wanted, when her sister didn’t want give in to her demand, when Mummy’s hand was too busy to carry her, or when she couldn’t get us to let her do what she wanted to. When we are at home, we would just let her cry herself out and leaving a small puddle of saliva on the floor; because she needs to learn what is wrong and not acceptable, so we try not to give in to her. But when we are out in public, we would try not to let her get to her extreme stage unless absolutely necessary. Either we try the distract-till-she-forgets tactic or we grab on to her preventing her from getting to first step of the plunging antic.

One of those days where she got cranky while in the train home.

It’s MINE!” she would insists when we have our phones or tablets in hand and proceed to snatch it off our hands. “Can you help me?” will come next when she require our password to unlock the screen. Then she would swipe through the screen like a pro and tap on the too-familiar YouTube icon and give us her million dollar smile. Zara sure knows how to cool off any kind of heat we may get from her!

Since she was 20 months young, she started requesting to do things on her own. “Eat… self“, “Do… self” and “I can!” are the commonly used phases when we are feeding, changing or trying to help her wear her shoes. This I’ve to thank the child care for starting their toddlers young. Zara is also able to tell us she needs to poo and would do it in the toilet, we didn’t even try to train her. Probably because she sees her elder sister doing it and picked it up on her own. That’s toilet training in progress already. Can’t wait to get her totally off diapers, hopefully by end of the year!

As we move towards the Terrible Two phase for the last time with our number two, I really hope I be more patient, more kind, more forgiving and more tolerable with what may be thrown at me by this little cheeky daughter.

Zara, oh our dear precious Zara. Please do learn to control and express yourself ok. Mummy and Ayah really do not want to scold you every day just because you don’t want to listen to us. And please stop giving us the “I don’t care nor give a damn” look. It really drive us crazy! Come what may!

The Chapter of Zara and Her Staycation at KKH Children’s Ward

Sleepy Zara is still in bed and I can’t put myself back to slumperland so this post. 

We are now at KKH Children’s Ward 85 awaiting for Doctor’s clearance for us to “check-out” of our one night stay in our private A1 Ward at KKH. I shall keep the details and lengthy story for another post coz writing it is not possible to share the whole episode typing on my mobile and with just a couple hours of sleep over the last 36 hours. 

This chapter is on the things we did to keep the little one busy while confined in her metal baby cot bed at KKH Children’s ward. 

Things To Do With Toddler (While Stuck In Bed) at A Hospital Ward

1. Meet New Friends

As there were no rooms available for us to admit into on Tuesday morning, we were put in the High Dependency Ward at Ward 65. Zara got a corner “unit” and immediately turned on her busybody self and got acquainted with her neighbor.

2. Attempt to wear a second pair of pants on their own

3. Eat hospital food

4. Let them take selfies

5. Discover they get big ass TV in their “hotel room”, while walking around in socks

6. Give them stickers, crayons and sketch book

7. Let them tie their own hair (even when it’s too short)

8. Make them clean up the mess

9. Let them watch TV before bed (and knock out soon after)

10. FaceTime with Cousin

And most importantly let them get plenty of sleep (and recover quickly so they can return home to play)

Thankful for Zara who behaved very well throughout our episode at the hospital. She was mostly cooperative except the few times when the nurses had to measure her pulse. She just doesn’t like the “massage” on her legs.

Can’t wait to be discharged and head home to catch more sleep in our own beds.

Play at Hokey Pokey Seletar Mall

Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

Making up lost time with Zara, we went on a one-on-one date together to Hokey Pokey indoor playground at Seletar Mall. When Ayra was little, I brought her to their other outlet a couple of times but never brought Zara to any playground alone. With Zara starting her childcare in February this year, this probably be the only fun dates alone together on a weekday.

Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall houses most of the fun and toys we remembered from Hokey Pokey at Millenia Walk. The outlet at Seletar Mall is smaller and probably lesser in crowd on weekdays. This indoor playground is more appropriate for toddlers below 6 years old as there are mostly toys and no climbing maze for the older kids. Ideal for playdates with the little ones.

Overview of the play area at Hokey Pokey
Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

The things Zara did at Hokey Pokey Seletar Mall…
… went shopping at the mini mart with trolley…
Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

… played some balls in the mini ball pit at the toddler area…
Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

… played on the Little Tikes swing…
Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

… pretended to hold her first mini piano performance…
Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

… and she did LOTS and lots of climbing…
Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

… and she climbed up and down this high slide stairs at least 8 times that day on her own! She is such an adventurous little girl, each time she reached the top, she would look down the long slide and go “WOW!” turned towards the stairs and climbed down again. Then repeat! The mummy me was tired just looking at her went up and down loh!
Play at Hokey Pokey at Seletar Mall

At $26 per entry on weekday, this probably be the last time we’ll be there. Just because we have too many toys at home to keep the little one busy already, and the collection just keeps growing!

Hokey Pokey Seletar Mall
33 Sengkang West Avenue
#B1-28/29
Singapore 797653
http://hokeypokey.com.sg