The Loving Mum is Not on Hiatus, Just Busy

Friends and fellow blogging mums have been checking in lately to ask if I was still alive or something has happened. Thanks much for your love and letting me know that there are still real people who cares about my well being. Very grateful.

Well, it’s been quiet a crazy time for me and my new baby. Yes, The Loving Mum has got Baby No. 3 and her name is AM Collective. Ha! At times I think I spending more time on this new baby than my own two real babies at home, but hey, newborns usually get more attention right? So ya, I’ve been busy with this baby and I’m happy it is growing up well and very well nurtured by the awesome team I am blessed to have onboard. And I’m super excited about our new home for AM Collective!

Besides work, I’ve been spending the very last bit of my left over energy and time on my family and a little on myself. Personally, I’ve put on a lot of weight, so much that my grandma who’ve not seen me for few months asked what happened to me when I visited after a work shoot near her.  I was just relieved that she didn’t assumed I was preggy again! LOL! For the record, my factory is closed for good ok. I missed my slimmer days when I was undergoing my #TLMgetfit journey… maybe it’s time to set aside time to do it again!

With the crazy weight gain, my body has also been acting up with lots of aches and pain all over my body. I feel like a 70+ old lady each time I had to stand up from my work desk and in the morning when I have to get out of bed. I tried an hour of session with Dr Stretch a month back and it did help relieve some pain, but after that I’ve not managed to book another session due to the erratic schedule of mine. I’ve paid for a package with them so I must die die force myself to visit them again soon so that I don’t waste money again lah.

Family wise, I think we are doing well. And I think I’m probably the only parent whom isn’t overly panicking about primary one registration. So we did our registration online and if we don’t get into this school, we’ll just register at the next closest one for us. No pressure. Haven’t been doing much of a coaching nor teaching with the girls also, play is important right? They are still a kid! Studies and all these stress will be on them for a big part of their future days so why start so early right? See I’m trying to comfort myself already. Ha!

Ok… seriously I have no idea where this post is going… I’m just blabbing away here trying to get some time away from the crazy among of work waiting for me…

Ending this quick update with some photos from the recent days and activities in my life…

My forever baby… refused to go to bed because I was still busy typing away past her bedtime. And this happened.
We don’t get to go out on weekday nights so this rare visit to Mustafa was quite fun. Bought these for their racial harmony day celebration in school and the littlest one will be performing on National Day at a community event! This is one of her moves for her dance performance. Can’t wait to watch her dance on stage!
Sometimes I can’t tell who’s the elder one… can you? 😛
My birthday weekend was spent in JB and it seemed more like a celebration for the girls than for me. It was fun to just getaway from work and spend time filling my family love tank.
And lastly here’s me in my super round face and spot all those white hair! OMG!

Ok, break time’s up! Back to work now…

Officially a Full Time Working Mum Or Not?

Since adulthood, whenever you catch up with long-time-no-see friends or relatives, one of the questions they confirm will ask is so what are you doing now? As in where are you working? For the past couple of years, my answer has always been “Oh I work for myself, you know… digital and social media kinda stuff?” Then come the puzzled looks and I can almost see all the question marks floating over their heads. “Oh you know? Online publishing and advertising?” Ohhh…

Still puzzled.

Then the next question will usually be, “So you work from home? That’s so good.” Ermm… at this point I’ll usually just shrug my shoulder and try to change the topic.

Working from home is NOT good!

Everyone who works 8 to 9 hours in the office will tell me that they envy me because I get to work from home. At first (about 2 years ago) I thought so too, and really did enjoy the flexibility to be able to work wearing my giant-worned-out-tshirt and boxer shorts and being able to just let out fart grab a quick nap whenever I have to. After your work starts getting kinda crazy, juggling multiple accounts and projects at one time, you start to realize working from home is NOT GOOD AT ALL.

Because home is where you do EVERYTHING, I ended up spending 70% of my time at home working. That’s more than 12 hours every day, and there’s like no-day-no-night please. In the morning, after sending the girls to school, my fingers will start typing non-stop on the keyboard right up till 5pm where I had to prepare dinner and fetch my girls from childcare. Thereafter a quick dinner, wash-up and spending some time with the girls, I will be back working away on my keyboard till 2am in the wee morning. And then the cycle repeats itself EVERYDAY! No weekends for work-from-home-mums ok? And I totally forget what it means to be on leave, on medical leave or just being away from office. All these terms just didn’t exists in my clients’ book nor my own.

Working Full Time Vs Working for Self

For the past one year, I’ve been working with a team at Alvinology Media. Thanks to the 101% trust from the big boss, I run the show well and managed to bring steady projects for the team. And I must say, the past one year has been the most hardworking period for me since I became a mum. It must be the desire to be able to run an agency again that pushes me, and the pressure to bring in enough to feed my team and myself that kept me going. And so I’ve been working full time on the team for a year already.

But a recent conversation with the big boss saddened me. He thinks I’m not committed to the company full time yet! WHAT???? 

According to Ministry of Manpower, a person who works for more than 35 hours a week is considered as working full time. So I am working way beyond the full-time definition can?

Working full-time in my context means I commit myself to producing and completing what I have to for my clients and assigned projects. I may not be physically seated at a work desk 35 hours a week, but the time committed to doing proposals, managing projects, communicating with clients, meetings, running errands etc all these surely add up to more than what is lawfully defined as working full-time.

I still consider myself as working for self, just because I am able to manage my schedule flexibly and is able to make decisions for the team and company (thanks to the empowerment given to me).

Say goodbye to coworking space
Say goodbye to coworking space

Officially with a Proper Setup

Though we have been running Alvinology Media for one year now, I still feel that there’s a lack of officiality because we are neither here nor there. The team works remotely and I sometimes feel like a lost sheep in between meetings as I have no place to work. Things will change officially from tomorrow.

We are officially moving into our very own office!

Together with our extended family of companies, we will be entering the next milestone of our agency life. A proper space with carpet (LOL!), our own furniture, a space for meetings, for learning and discussions. I can finally hold a proper meeting with my team with stable Wifi, screen for projection, space for brainstorming and walls to paste post-it notes on!

I miss having our own offices!

Previous office for 24seven at Upper Serangoon Shopping Centre
Previous office for 24seven at Upper Serangoon Shopping Centre
DICE Studio at The Modules
And the space we had for DICE Studio at The Modules

With this new milestone in life, it’s going to be my third baby, one that is still in the infancy stage and waiting to bloom and blossom. Am thankful for the opportunities the big boss, my team and our clients have given us. And the years ahead is looking even brighter! It’s going to be one hell of a journey and I’m super pumped!

Our new home before we took over, and now empty waiting to be filled with our creativity and adventures

Go team AM and OUS!

Watch this space as we transform and bring you bigger, better and awesome work and content. Stay tune!